Rarely does anyone explores its origin,
but all know how it makes them feel and act!
In one’s daily lives,
numerous moments disrupt the stillness of one’s inner compass –
a conflict involving family, friends, or colleagues,
a delay in schedule,
troubling news headlines,
or simply the chaos at a traffic light.
Most fail to realize how ineffective they have become
by living an unexamined life.
Like any other emotion,
anger arises from moods and feelings,
products of thought,
and thought itself is the offspring of the mind – the ego.
Notice, how mood shifts
when one’s expectations are unmet (sadness),
fulfilled (joy),
or when another’s behaviour aligns (happiness)
or fail to align (turmoil)
with one’s expectations.
All these experiences converge
into an estuary called anger,
origination from the mountain of hope and expectations.
If one pauses and reflects through the lens of clarity,
he will see that his attachment to labels like
good – bad, right – wrong
are nothing more than an ego’s pursuit
to validate its identities and concepts
which one adopts since young age.
The more attention one gives to these attachments,
A passing thought, a mere feeling,
becomes an emotion of anger.
He then becomes a marionette
to his attachments,
or others action
and begins to operates from the stand point of anger.
Please introspect.
A man’s ego shaped by identity, beliefs,
and expectations,
play a crucial role in how one perceives of anger.
Anger often compels reaction without clarity,
Action without awareness
and in harmful ways.
One may pursue his journey with anger
or with understanding –
the path may appear the same,
but arrival will surely differ.
Can read that again.
Rarely does anyone explores its origin.
An external trigger is all it takes
to bring years of suppression alive.
To simply asking someone ‘not to get angry’
is just being naive.
As its core,
all experiences of anger stems from expectations—
of how life should be,
how others should respond
or how one’s past should have been.
There is no other reason.
More often,
it is the guilt that follows anger
which drives one to act in repentance –
through way of apology or act of kindness,
especially within family of friendship,
The mind, after all, craves to be guilt free!
If humans were not guilty about their anger,
I seriously doubt,
they would care much to overcome it.
When one hands over control of their lives
to another person, an identity, an idea,
he begins to live in blind faith, false hope,
and constant anticipation.
This path brings only despair and regret.
It is only through understanding this truth,
that one can begin to live an examined life –
and move through his existence with clarity,
and not merely be carried
by the restless waves of anger.
Freedom from anger is not a victory over others,
but over oneself.”
Sathya